If you've been on the Twin Flame journey for any amount of time, you've probably asked yourself some version of these questions:
Can a card reading tell me if this is really my Twin Flame?
What if someone is using black magic to keep us apart?
Do these signs and synchronicities mean they're coming back?
What if they choose someone else—can another person ruin my union?
These questions all have something in common: they're rooted in the fear that something outside of you has power over your journey. That someone or something else gets to determine whether or not you experience your union.
And I get it. When you're in the thick of separation, when nothing seems to be moving, when your Twin Flame appears to be choosing anything and anyone but you, it's natural to look for answers outside yourself. It's natural to want certainty, reassurance, confirmation that you're not crazy and that this is all going to work out.
But here's what I've learned over the last five years on my own Twin Flame journey, and what I help my clients understand in coaching: your journey always brings you back to your relationship with yourself.
You don't have to surrender your inner authority to cards, signs, fear, spiritual practitioners, perceived external interference, or another person's choices. The power has always been within you.
In this blog, we're going to explore four of the most common fears that keep people stuck in separation and I'm going to show you how to reclaim your power in each one.
Can Card Readings Confirm My Twin Flame?
I know it's common for a lot of us on the journey to watch card readings. I certainly did. When I first started my journey, I was watching readings on YouTube, eventually purchasing some from different readers. I'm sure many of you have been through the same thing. And as someone who's been giving card readings for the last four years, I've learned a great deal about what their purpose actually is and how to use them in a way that supports your journey rather than keeps you stuck.
So let's start with the obvious question: Can a card reading confirm your Twin Flame?
No. It cannot.
I'm going to be real direct and straightforward here. There is no one outside of you that can confirm your Twin Flame. I know that can be really difficult to hear, especially in the beginning of the journey when everything feels so disorienting and you're just trying to understand what this connection even is. There's always this desire to be certain before we go down a path.
But I want to be transparent with you: the Twin Flame journey requires a great deal of faith. There's no getting around it. As much as we'd like to go to someone and get a yes or no answer, that's not how this works. Your Twin Flame journey is a journey of ascension, and we have to align with our union and heal our blocks to love to have that person revealed to us. It's a process.
I know that might not be what you want to hear. We want to know for certain before we commit to the path. But ultimately, this journey is about coming home to yourself and learning how to love yourself and cultivate a healthy, loving relationship with your Twin Flame. If that's something you desire, I recommend you explore the journey.
So What Can Card Readings Be Used For?
A card reading is essentially a tool to connect with the divine. You can receive guidance, reflect on what's coming up for you, and sometimes use them to support your inner work and healing. I've used readings in my own journey this way, and there are many different ways you can work with this tool.
But they don't predict the future. They read your current energy and can pick up on what you're moving into, but they can't confirm or deny anything for you. That's why it's so important to establish your own connection with the divine. It can be really valuable to receive a reading and have it give you things to reflect on, but I want you to be careful about relying on them too heavily for your healing or decision-making.
If you find yourself binging card readings, it might be time to step back and ask yourself why. That in itself can be a really great opportunity for healing.
Guidance vs. Seeking Certainty
As humans, we like certainty. We like to know for sure. And a lot of times, we have a really hard time moving in a direction when we're not 100% certain. That's where faith is required. With faith, you can't always see where you're going. You have to trust the divine, your own inner guidance, and your higher self.
When we're constantly seeking certainty, we're ultimately looking outside of ourselves for an answer. And especially on the Twin Flame journey, those answers are not outside of you. They never are. They're always within you.
You can have support. I'm an ascension coach, and I support my clients on their healing journey. I help them see where they're getting stuck, master the inner work, and move through the deeper blocks that really help to have somebody there for. I can offer guidance and answer questions, but it's important to develop your own relationship with the divine, with love, with your intuition. That's what's going to give you peace, stability, and security on your journey. It's going to help you heal that really disorienting feeling at the beginning when you don't even know what this is and you can't get them off your mind.
Grounding into yourself and learning how to trust yourself is going to bring you a lot of peace. I know for myself, over the last five years on my journey, I've cultivated that a lot. I'm not perfect at it—I'm definitely a work in progress—but I do feel a lot more peaceful than I did at the very beginning. I don't find myself constantly searching for answers outside of myself. Sometimes I still do, because I'm human and I'm still learning. There's always room to grow and heal. So give yourself grace and compassion there, but also recognize that developing that inner trust is what's going to keep this journey from feeling like absolute hell.
When we're repeatedly seeking confirmation from someone or something, like a card reading, it can further disconnect us from ourselves. And we really want to be firmly connected with ourselves, because that's where the answers are.
How to Use Readings in a Grounded Way
The reader you go with makes a big difference. There are a lot of card readers on YouTube and elsewhere who aren't really attuned to the Twin Flame journey. They're not following any particular path—it might just be a fun collective video concept, but it's not grounded in solid teachings. The teachings I follow are the Teachings of Union by my spiritual teachers, Jeff and Shaleia, and that's how I do my card readings. They're grounded in that foundation.
A lot of times you can feel with a card reader if you resonate or not. They can't perfectly pick up on everything, so if you've ever gotten a reading and it just felt wrong or off, listen to yourself. I've talked to several people who had card readings from someone who told them a person wasn't their Twin Flame, and it felt off. Listen to yourself there. Really listen.
Sometimes readings can bring up upsets, but ultimately it's easier to feel if something just doesn't resonate. That's why I also feel like if you really enjoy receiving readings, it's worth looking into learning how to do them for yourself. Get a deck of cards with a really good guidebook that helps you learn and pick up on it. That's what I did, and as I went, I got a lot more confident. When you learn how to do it for yourself, you can give yourself a reading whenever you want. And when other people give you a reading, you can feel into your own meaning for the cards.
I know from readings I've received over the years, I can go back and look at them from different points in time, where my energy has shifted, and they can mean different things for me.
Shifting from Fear to Trust
Ultimately, when we're looking at readings all the time trying to get confirmation, it's coming from this fear of "I need someone or something else to tell me." We want to shift that to "I can go within myself and find the answer for myself. I don't need anything outside of me to confirm."
That's a big shift. It takes repetition, choices, and healing to really shift that. But it's definitely worth it. It's going to provide you a much greater deal of peace on your Twin Flame journey.
A card reading can offer reflection, guidance, and insight. But it doesn't need to become the authority over your union. Don't let anything outside of you become the authority over your union. The divine is the authority over your union. Not a card reading, not a coach, not a teacher, not a psychic. The divine. That's it.
And ultimately, that's the best place to go when you're seeking certainty, when you need clarity, when you need answers. Going within yourself. If you're having a difficult time doing that, I'm a certified ascension coach, and I'd be happy to help you begin learning how to cultivate that relationship with yourself so you can trust your connection with the divine and your intuition to receive those answers and guidance for yourself.
Can Spells or Black Magic Affect My Twin Flame Journey?
I have encountered a lot of people who genuinely believe that someone else is using a spell or black magic to make their Twin Flame not choose them, to keep them out of their life, or to block their union in some way.
And I get it. That fear is real for a lot of people. But here's what I want you to understand: the problem isn't whether or not spells or black magic are "real." The problem is that when you believe someone else has that kind of power over your union, you're giving your power away.
Nobody can come in and get between you and your Twin Flame. They just can't. You're one with your Twin Flame. The only one who can block your union is you. You're the only one. Nobody else can get in the way.
I know that's really difficult for a lot of people to believe, because it means taking responsibility for yourself and claiming your power. And in today's world, those are very radical concepts. Society likes to tell us that it's always something outside of us. It's always out there. There are even Twin Flame teachers out there who encourage separation by saying, "Oh, there's nothing you can do about it."
But that's not true. There's always something you can do about it, because only you can create in your reality.
You Are the Only One with Power in Your Reality
This is a really difficult concept for a lot of people to grasp, because we grow up in a society that teaches us we have absolutely no power or authority in our lives. We're taught to look outside ourselves for answers, for validation, for permission. We're taught that other people, circumstances, or forces beyond our control determine what happens to us.
But that's not how the Twin Flame journey works. And honestly, that's not how life works when you're living in alignment with the divine.
If you believe that spells or black magic—or anything else, for that matter—can block your union, then that's what you will experience. Not because the spell itself has power, but because you've given it power. If you believe it can make your Twin Flame not choose you, that's what you're going to experience. But if you don't give it power, and you claim your own power and take responsibility for yourself and embark on your healing journey, you're not going to experience that upset.
This is an upset. And like any upset on the Twin Flame journey, it can absolutely be healed.
When This Fear Shows Up, It's an Opportunity to Heal
This upset often comes up when we really feel like we have no power or authority in our own life. Those beliefs stem from really deep fear. If you've experienced or been through a lot of things where you genuinely believed that somebody else had power over you and your life, then this can be a really scary thing to go through.
But it's important to recognize that anything you experience on the Twin Flame journey that does not feel good can be healed. That's the purpose of the journey: healing and ascension. Ascension is purifying your consciousness into oneness with love, and the only way to do that is to root out fear.
When people experience this fear, it's often a really deep-seated one. And your Twin Flame mirrors you perfectly. So you're going to experience more of your core fears and blocks on the Twin Flame journey because your Twin Flame mirrors you so deeply.
But it can be healed. I use the Mirror Exercise to move through upsets like this. That's what I teach clients and help people with in coaching sessions—mastering the inner work so that when these experiences come up, they can make a new choice and change what they're experiencing by healing what that experience has brought up within them.
The Bottom Line
I'm not here to tell you whether or not spells or black magic are "real." That's a personal thing. What I am here to tell you is that even if you believe they're real, they only have the power that you give them.
You always have the power to change your experience and to change your reality, because you're the only one who can create in it. Only you have complete power and authority over your reality and your experiences.
No external force or another person can override your connection with the divine or your Twin Flame. Fear only has the power that you give it, because it's not actually real. And when you claim your power, take responsibility for yourself, and do your healing, you won't experience that upset anymore.
Can Signs, Synchronicities & Angel Numbers Tell Me What Will Happen?
Signs and synchronicities are winks from the universe, messages from the divine, and sometimes messages from your Twin Flame connecting with you. And I think a lot of us experience them heavily at the beginning of our journey for a couple of reasons.
First, I feel like it's the divine really holding our hand and giving us encouragement to keep moving in the right direction. Like we talked about in the card reading section, we like certainty to move forward. Having these little bits of reassurance helps us keep going at the very beginning when we haven't really established the inner work process yet.
The other reason is that when we're at the beginning of our journey, we haven't gone really deep within ourselves yet, so it's a lot easier to experience those things externally. What I mean by that is when you get really deep in your journey and you're mastering the inner work and going within yourself to heal and ascend, the signs and synchronicities—the winks from the universe—start to come from within yourself when you're healing and connecting with yourself, versus out in your external reality.
I remember at the beginning of my journey, I used to experience signs a lot. Repeating numbers, license plates, my Twin Flame's name, songs coming on. And then it mellowed out to where I don't experience them as much anymore. I've found that's actually quite common for a lot of people on the journey.
The deeper you go, the more the divine is able to communicate that reassurance to you within your heart instead of through things in your external reality. When we're first starting the journey, I feel like it's easier to experience those things because they don't require us to go as deep within ourselves.
They're Reassurance, Not Predictions
Signs, synchronicities, and angel numbers are very valuable for your journey, but you have to be careful—just like with card readings—not to get really attached to them or rely on them for making decisions and determining how your journey's going. That's not what they're for.
They're messages from the divine and sometimes from your Twin Flame's higher self. They're meant to help you. Like card readings, they can offer guidance and meet you where you are, but they're not determining your union.
They're not predictions. They're not instructions. They're not telling you how well you're doing on your journey.
When you start experiencing them less, that doesn't mean something's wrong. It could mean one of two things: either you're experiencing a block to receiving messages from the divine or your Twin Flame's higher self, or you're beginning to shift to going deeper within yourself, and maybe you haven't quite realized those little winks of reassurance within yourself yet. I know I went through that.
What Does This Sign Mean?
I've absolutely experienced seeing some kind of sign and spiraling into "what does this mean?" I've encountered so many other people and clients who have also experienced it. And it's important not to get stuck on what it means, because the way you find that out is by your feelings.
You feel into how it felt. How did it feel to see 11:11 or hear your Twin Flame's name or have a song come on or see a specific animal? Some people see feathers. Some people see butterflies. Signs and synchronicities are all very personal to each of us. The ones we experience are going to be different, and they're going to have completely different meanings for us.
For me, a really big sign I experience on my Twin Flame journey is cherry blossom trees. That's why I have them all over my business and in a lot of the content I post. Cherry blossom trees are a really big sign for my union, and I usually interpret them as going in the right direction and really aligning. Sometimes I'll see them a lot, or in meditations, they'll come up for me.
Another one is my Twin Flame's name. He has a name that isn't as common, so whenever it comes up, it really feels like a sign that I'm receiving something from him. It varies what it is. I've had times where I was in a place completely by myself and I all of a sudden could smell my Twin Flame's cologne. I've had things like that happen before too.
There are a lot of different things it can be and that people experience, and it's all very personal and unique to us. But you determine what it means by how it makes you feel.
Sometimes those things bring up upsets, and those are opportunities to heal and align deeper with your union. And sometimes they are little bits of reassurance and compassion and love from your Twin Flame or from the divine, encouraging you to continue moving forward.
Can Someone Else Block, Steal, or Ruin My Twin Flame Union?
I'm going to be honest with you: I have experienced this fear a lot. Mainly before I knew about Twin Flames. Since I grew up with mine, I saw him date other girls, and when we were together, it was my biggest fear that he would leave me for someone else.
I know this is a very common experience on the journey, and it's painful. I completely understand that because I've experienced it myself. Seeing the person you love choosing someone else hurts. It really does.
But here's what I want you to know: it's still a block, and it can be healed.
It's Not the End of Your Union—It's a Block to Heal
When you're experiencing the fear or the reality of your Twin Flame being with someone else, it doesn't mean your union is over. It's not permanent. It's a block your union is moving through, and it brings healing opportunities to both you and your Twin Flame.
Often, the root of this block is not choosing yourself. When you're focused on who your Twin Flame is choosing, you're not choosing you. You're giving your power away to someone else and to a situation you can't control. And that's where the pain deepens.
But when you bring the focus back to yourself—when you choose yourself, love yourself, and heal the places within you that believe someone else could be better or more deserving—that block dissolves.
You Are the Perfect Person for Your Twin Flame
Remember this: you are the perfect person for your Twin Flame. The person they appear to be choosing doesn't compare to you. They can't. Because you and your Twin Flame are one. You're created for each other by God.
When your Twin Flame dates others, it's you they're searching for ultimately. I know that doesn't lessen the pain immediately, but I want to emphasize the truth here: no one else can take your place. No one else can be you. And your Twin Flame's soul knows that, even if they're not consciously aware of it yet.
You Don't Have to Compete, Control, or Monitor
Your Twin Flame journey doesn't require you to compete with, control, monitor, or fear another person. Your union is between you, your Twin Flame, and God. No one else can interfere with that.
Trying to keep tabs on what your Twin Flame is doing, who they're with, or what they're choosing only keeps you stuck in separation. It keeps you focused outward instead of inward, where the real healing happens.
When you let go of the need to control or monitor and instead focus on your own healing, on choosing yourself, on building a loving relationship with yourself and God, your Twin Flame will reflect that back to you. That's how the mirror works.
This Block Is Absolutely Healable
I want to acknowledge that this is a painful experience. It's one of the hardest things to move through on the Twin Flame journey. But it's not the end of your union. It's a block to heal that will bring you closer to union.
It's absolutely healable, and it's not permanent. The pain you're feeling is pointing you to a place within yourself that needs love. And when you give yourself that love, when you choose yourself and heal that block, the experience shifts.
You don't have to stay stuck in the fear of someone else taking your Twin Flame. You have the power to heal this and move into a place of peace, trust, and knowing that your union is safe because it's divinely orchestrated.
Conclusion
At the end of the day, your Twin Flame journey is not about what's happening outside of you. It's not about what the cards say, what signs you're seeing, what someone else might be doing energetically, or who your Twin Flame appears to be choosing.
It's about you. Your relationship with yourself. Your relationship with the divine. Your willingness to heal, to choose love, and to claim your power.
Every fear we've explored in this blog—whether it's relying on card readings for confirmation, worrying about spells or black magic, obsessing over signs and synchronicities, or fearing that someone else can take your Twin Flame—they all point back to the same core wound: the belief that something outside of you has more power than you do.
But that's not true. It never has been.
You are the only one who can create in your reality. You are the only one with complete power and authority over your experiences. And when you step into that truth, when you take responsibility for your healing and your journey, everything shifts.
Your union is safe. It's divinely orchestrated. And no external force, person, or circumstance can override your connection with the divine or your Twin Flame.
If you're struggling with any of the things we talked about here and would like deeper support on your journey, I'd love to help you. As a certified ascension coach, I work with Twin Flames to master the inner work, heal blocks to union, and cultivate a loving, grounded relationship with themselves and their Twin Flame.
You can learn more about working with me or reach out directly [sakurasoulunion@gmail.com]. I'm here to support you.
