Twin Flame Holiday Survival Guide

The holidays are upon us, and where's your Twin Flame…

With their spouse, their girlfriend, you have no idea because you haven't talked in a year plus. Bottom line is, they're not with you.

Ouch!

This is a very painful experience to go through. But here's the thing: this experience doesn't have to be permanent, and the holidays don't have to feel this heavy.

So how are you going to survive the holidays this year?

Don't worry, I've got some tips for you ;)

Trust Me, I Get It

You're surrounded by family, friends, other couples, and of course, the questions about your love life begin to come up. You feel the triggers, the longing, the sadness bubbling up. Trust me, I get it.

As I'm writing this, I'll be in my sixth holiday season while experiencing separation from my Twin Flame. I used to dread this time of year. The thought of family gatherings, seeing happy couples everywhere - in person and in all those damn Christmas movies - fielding those "So are you seeing anyone?" questions. It all felt overwhelming and kind of like a slap in the face. It's like, “yeah, I know that I'm experiencing separation from my one true love. I don't need to be reminded of it everywhere.”

It's not fun when you're seeing other people who appear to be really happy in their relationships while everybody's asking you about your relationship status. And as we all know on this journey, it's pretty hard to explain it to people who aren't on it. So these questions can be really tricky to navigate without people looking at you like you're crazy if you were to be honest about it. That can make you want to isolate yourself and avoid hanging out with people over the holidays.

I've been there. Trust me, I understand it's not fun. But over the years, I've found some tools, practices and tips that have helped me not just survive the holidays, but actually enjoy them regardless of how my Twin Flame journey is going. The holidays can become a time of joy and connection again, even when your Twin Flame isn't physically there.

My Number One Tool

Nothing has helped me more than the Mirror Exercise . This tool helps you face the triggers and upsets the holidays can bring on. It shows you what's going on in your inner world and gives you the opportunity to heal. When done consistently, you'll notice less emotional turbulence and more peace in your heart. Plus, it'll help you end the experience of separation so you'll actually be enjoying the holidays with your Twin Flame by your side.

When I do the mirror exercise consistently, I've found that over the years, as I've really mastered it, I can do it in the moment. It helps you move through the things coming up during the holiday season a lot faster, which has helped me enjoy things more because I know how to move through anything that upsets me. I don't have to isolate myself out of fear of being triggered by things because I know how to move through it and love myself.

If you're new to inner work and doing the mirror exercise, you might need to take space and be alone for a little bit to journal and work through the four-step process (which I walk you through step-by-step in this video). It's really important to give yourself the space to move through your feelings and allow yourself to feel however you're feeling because it can be really tempting to numb out during the holidays just to get through it.

It's Okay to Miss Them

Give yourself the love and compassion you need and deserve. It's okay to miss your Twin Flame, to feel the longing, to think of them often, and to wish they were here. An important truth to remember is you're one at the core. Even if you're experiencing separation, they're still with you. You're meant to spend the holidays together, but if that's not your experience, it's okay. You're working your process, so long as you're doing your inner work.

I've found this to be really helpful for me, having a lot of compassion and unconditional love for myself as I move through the season and really just allowing myself to give that to myself. Even if I'm missing him or just feeling really sad. Wherever you are on your journey is okay. You deserve to have compassion and love regardless of what you're experiencing. You do deserve that.

Since you are one with your twin flame, you can meditate in your heart and actually connect with them. I've found that to be incredibly helpful whenever I'm missing him,remembering that I'm one with him. He's already in my heart and he is here with me during this holiday season. You can practice this connection through meditation and eventually be able to do it in the moment no matter where you are or who you're with. It really does help ease that feeling of separation because you're going back to that place where you're one in your heart.

Give Yourself Space

It's really important to give yourself the space you need to move through your feelings and allow yourself to feel however you're feeling. I've found this to be really vital for me because when the holiday season is upon us, we tend to have a lot of plans with people and family and friends. We have a lot going on, and that can lead to almost feeling like there's not a lot of time for yourself.

If I'm at a family function and I'm triggered or I just need some space, stepping away from people can help. In my first few holiday seasons practicing inner work, I would often step away into a different room or even the bathroom, get out my phone, and do mirror exercises in my memo tab to help me move through things before I went back. Now I can do it in the moment, but giving yourself space in general is still so important.

It's really important to take time for yourself and focus on yourself during this season, especially if you're moving through a lot of challenging emotions and experiences on your Twin Flame journey or just in your life in general. It also helps you not numb out. When we feel obligated to all these people and events, it can be really tempting to numb out to how we're actually feeling and try to keep all these obligations while keeping that smile on our face.

But it's really important to take that space to honor how you feel and what you need in the moment. It can be really tempting to numb out just to get through it, but that's not what we want to do. That's not actually going to allow us to enjoy the holidays, and it doesn't actually allow us to utilize the incredible healing opportunities that they bring us.

This journey isn't about suffering. You're not supposed to suffer. And if you're experiencing suffering, there's something to heal there, because regardless of where your Twin Flame is or who they're with, you're meant to experience joy.

You Don't Have to Wait

The holidays are meant to be fun, and joy is a choice. It's always a choice. You can always choose joy, but you have to choose it and invite it in. Sometimes when we're really hurt and going through a lot, it can be really hard to invite joy in because we think that it's not possible to experience joy until we've moved through this thing, until we're no longer experiencing this thing. Not true at all. You have to invite it and allow it in.

Here's where a lot of us get tripped up: your Twin Flame is not your source of joy or the savior to end your pain. We think that the holiday season is going to feel better if our Twin Flame is next to us. It's not, because your Twin Flame is only going to amplify how you already feel. So if you feel bad, having them next to you is just going to make you feel even worse because they amplify your current energy - they mirror you. They're mirroring you back to you.

Their physical presence is not going to make your pain go away, no matter how much you think otherwise. And believe me, I've been there and really wanted to believe it too. That belief in itself prevents your joy. When you're waiting for something outside of you to make you feel better, when you're waiting for an external experience to change before you allow yourself to feel good, you're just causing yourself pain and suffering.

God is your source of joy, not your Twin Flame. You are your savior who can end your pain. Only you can end your pain. Only you can end separation with your Twin Flame. No one else can do it for you, not even your Twin Flame, because they're you. They're only going to do what you would do. If you're not willing to meet yourself where you're hurt and bring love there, if you're not willing to invite joy in, your they're not going to either, and they're not going to do it first either.

So celebrate yourself, indulge in small pleasures, create moments that make your heart light, and let laughter in. One thing I've found super helpful over the holiday seasons is connecting with my Twin Flame in my heart, like I mentioned before, before I engage in things I really look forward to and enjoy. I really feel and stay connected to his presence while I'm doing these things that I love. That helps me a lot because then I'm not focusing on the separation - ultimately separation is an illusion. They are right there with you, they are experiencing it with you, and you can always invite your Twin Flame to experience it with you. Not by messaging or calling them, but by inviting them in your heart and allowing their presence to be with you.

I've really found this helpful when I'm doing things that I love, like decorating or certain events I enjoy. No matter who I'm with, or if I'm by myself, I always connect with him, and it's made such a difference.

It Gets Easier, I Promise

Each holiday season gets easier as you master inner work and self-love. Over the years, I've learned to honor my feelings, heal what's hurt, and still choose joy. This season may be challenging, but it's also a chance to grow, reflect, and reconnect with yourself.

You may be experiencing separation with your Twin Flame, but you are with you, and your Twin Flame is one with you. This experience of separation is in no way permanent. There is an end to it, and a clear path forward that can be joyful.

Remember, this season of separation isn't permanent, but the tools you develop to navigate it will serve you forever. Each holiday you choose healing over numbing, joy over suffering, and love over fear, you're not just surviving - you're building the foundation for the Harmonious Union you desire.

If you're new to the Twin Flame journey and want to dive deeper into this work, here's a great toolkit to help get you started.

This holiday season, choose yourself. You deserve that gift.

With love,

Abigail 💗